For parents: integrated techniques

Paar: Zwischen Stress und Ohnmachtsgefühl

The task of raising a child often necessitates that the parents are able to respond to the child’s modes of behaviour in flexible ways.

This takes stamina – as a general “rule” for about six weeks en bloc – as the results of such developments do not show until the newly acquired pattern of behavior has become common usage. I deploy these techniques (amongst others) to make educational goals achievable for parents:


Systemic techniques:
Visualizing the “Square of Emotions”

This graphic technique is suitable for making emotional clusters visible and often eases the initiation for change. Without neutral intervention, such clusters tend to happen in secret. For this reason, the “Square of Emotions” primarily aims at supporting the client in….

  • ….unlocking the emotional sense of oneself
  • …being straightforward in one’s own behavioural self-conduct.


Analyzing the “Wheel of Personality”

Each of us is endowed with a particular personal temper that engraves the development of our personality until we die. The “Wheel of Personality” lends itself to….

  • …clarifying which ego-parts bear special meanings in the here and now
  • …differentiating “core values” from “pseudo-values”
  • …enhancing the ability for making agreements and heightening the flexibility of behaviour
  • …decreasing stress and conflict


The “Wheel of Life“ / The “Systemic Atom”

This technique visualizes the current situation and resets it with the client’s tasks and goals. Oftentimes, this clarifies…

  • … what is at stake
  • … where the windows of change really are
  • … what is urgent and what needs to be tackled first


Humanistic techniques for emotional self-regulation:
Short memos: “Keeping a logbook”

Being a parent charges the everyday with diversification and endowment of meaning. And yet, parenthood is also a challenge and a taxing effort. For these reasons, I introduce parents to the technique of keeping short memos and thus strive for calming the familiar atmosphere as a whole. Keeping a “logbook” only takes five minutes per day and is suitable for…

  • …keeping track of the child’s transition from one development phase to the next
  • …tracking changes within the family’s line-up
  • …preparing for relocation or move-outs
  • …paving the path for changing kindergarten or school


Humanistic interview techniques:
“Presence in absence”

The clients’ issues often relate to people who are present in their absence. Thus, I also deploy client-based interview techniques. In doing so, it is sometimes useful to bring in chair or wooden figures so as to….

  • …make the soul-related well-being visible
  • …bring perceptional categories to light
  • …test-try the problem-solving approach with a bit of playful ease


Hypno-systemic techniques:
Locating emotional landmarks

A “landmark” is a piece of paper – the client “marks” and labels it, then puts it on the floor and steps onto it so as to “step into” body perception and awareness or to allow for mental images. This technique lends itself to…

  • …exploring the up-to-date well-being
  • …handling aches and pains in a competent way
  • …preventing psychosomatic discomfort


Social psychological techniques:
Preventing and counteracting bullying and harassment

When a family member is faced with personal problems, the situation often has ripples effects on the social environment at large. At times, parents report that they feel shunned – for instance, during school events or in their own neighborhood. For these reasons, I convey proven modes of behavior that contribute to breaking “vicious circles”.